I’m Unexpectedly Pregnant in College. What Do I Do?!

Being pregnant in college can be a daunting experience, filled with uncertainty and overwhelming emotions. However, it's essential to remember that you are not alone in this journey. If you’re unexpectedly pregnant in college and wondering what to do, this step-by-step guide can help you make informed decisions and access support.

First, know that being pregnant doesn’t mean you have to quit college.
Yes, you can be pregnant in college, and pregnancy doesn't have to be a barrier to completing your college education. Talking to academic advisors about adjusting your class schedule can help you find a manageable balance between your studies and pregnancy. Discussing flexible study arrangements with professors and exploring online or remote learning options can help faculty and staff accommodate your needs. Understanding your college's policies on pregnancy and maternity leave will enable you to plan ahead and utilize available resources. 
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Researching your rights as a pregnant college student, and familiarizing yourself with Title IX, a federal law that protects against pregnancy-related discrimination, can help ensure fair treatment and access to necessary accommodations. Looking into scholarships tailored for pregnant and parenting students can ease financial burdens and help you focus on your education. Knowing about potential workplace accommodations for pregnant or parenting students can also help you manage your responsibilities effectively. 

You have options! With the right approach and support, you can embrace motherhood and continue your educational journey with confidence.

Next, confirm that you truly are pregnant.
Many home pregnancy tests claim to be 99% accurate when used properly. You may choose to confirm the pregnancy with a free medical pregnancy test, to gain peace of mind while considering next steps to take. The Avi Project can refer you to one of the many places that offer these tests at no cost, including health clinics, community centers, and women’s health organizations - just call or text 720-386-6009. If you’re more comfortable with your gynecologist or family doctor, they can conduct a thorough examination to confirm the pregnancy. 

Confirming the pregnancy is the foundation for making decisions about your future and your medical care. Whether you visit a healthcare provider or opt for a free medical pregnancy test, taking this step empowers you to make informed choices and receive the support and care you need.

Lean on a support system.
Don't underestimate the power of emotional support. Confide in the people closest to you about your feelings and concerns about your pregnancy:

• Lean on your support system, reaching out to friends, family, and trusted individuals who can offer a listening ear. 
• Seek out other parenting or pregnant students to connect with, as peer support can be incredibly valuable. 
• Consider joining local parenting groups or communities where you can find additional support and share experiences with others who understand your situation. 
• Online forums and social media groups can also provide a valuable virtual network.

Open communication with your partner is also crucial; they should be involved in the decision-making process and provide support as well. If you don’t feel comfortable reaching out to your partner about your pregnancy, it’s important to seek guidance from a licensed counselor or even a legal professional. Your safety is important!

Take the time to work through your emotions and thoughts about the situation, as this is an important aspect of processing and decision-making. If you’re unsure of what to do next, don't hesitate to reach out to professional resources that specialize in helping pregnant college students, such as The Avi Project. We are available 24/7 by call or text at 720-386-6009. Building a support network of understanding friends, family, and fellow students will provide a safety net throughout your pregnancy and beyond. 

Remember, you have the strength and resilience to navigate this journey successfully, and with the right support, you can still achieve your goals and dreams.

Figure out what your options are.
Take the time to reflect on your unique situation and determine what your options are. Unexpected pregnancy can present many challenges, and it's crucial to research the options available to you and make an informed decision. Each option carries its own set of considerations, so take the time to weigh the pros and cons of each choice. 

Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or counseling services to discuss your feelings and thoughts, as their support can be instrumental in helping you navigate this pivotal moment in your life. The Avi Project partners with licensed counselors and compassionate advisors to bring these services to pregnant students cost-free. Seeking guidance and support can empower you during this time of uncertainty.

Make a plan for your future.
When you’ve considered all of your options and worked through your emotions with the support of trusted individuals, make a plan for continuing to attend your classes and finishing your degree: 

• Reach out to your professors and academic advisors to discuss any necessary accommodations or support during this time. These resources can provide valuable insights and resources to help you balance all your responsibilities.
• Consider your career path and seek guidance from campus career services to plan for your future after graduation, and consider attending parenting workshops. 
• Research and apply for any available financial aid, scholarships, or grants specifically designed to support pregnant and parenting students. Financial assistance is essential to ease the burden of pregnancy and parenting costs.
• Research childcare options on or near campus that fit your needs and schedule. Thinking about childcare is important if you plan to continue your education. 

Remember, while unexpected, this situation does not have to derail your dreams. With a well-thought-out plan and a strong support system, you can still achieve your educational and career goals. Take it one step at a time, seek help when needed, and believe in your ability to thrive.

Continue taking care of your health.
Your health and well-being, as well as that of your baby, are of utmost importance. Make sure to attend regular prenatal check-ups, follow your healthcare provider's advice, and maintain a healthy lifestyle with a balanced diet and regular exercise.

Taking prenatal classes can help you prepare for childbirth and parenthood. These classes often cover topics such as labor and delivery, newborn care, breastfeeding, and postpartum support. The knowledge and skills gained from these classes will boost your confidence as you approach motherhood.

Familiarize yourself with local parenting resources, such as pediatricians, family support centers, and childbirth education programs. Having this information at hand will ensure you have a network of support and assistance once the baby arrives.

College life and pregnancy can both be demanding, so it's vital to prioritize self-care and manage stress throughout your pregnancy. If you feel overwhelmed, our team at The Avi Project can help you find medical care and financial assistance (720-386-6009), and take one more thing off your to-do list.

Don’t forget to find joy in the present moment, as much as possible.
Remember to frequently reconnect with the present moment, and take time for activities that bring you relaxation such as reading, walking, or journaling. As difficult as this journey is, finding small joys throughout your day and taking each day one at a time can help you get through it.

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