Wondering about being in a sorority while pregnant? Asking the question is a great first step! It’s very healthy to want to surround yourself with friends and a community that can offer you support during this time. It’s especially helpful to surround yourself with people who may be able to help encourage and support you in your academic life.
Everyone’s experience with pregnancy and sorority membership will vary depending on individual circumstances, the sorority’s culture, and the support network available. Whether you’re pregnant and currently in a sorority, or you’re considering joining one, there are a few things to keep in mind.
You matter. Your well-being is of the utmost importance. Prioritize your health and seek the necessary medical advice and support during your pregnancy. Surrounding yourself with understanding friends can make a significant difference, especially in navigating the academic challenges that may arise.
Commitment. Being part of a sorority can be a fulfilling experience, but it comes with its demands. The level of demand associated with being in a sorority can vary significantly based on the specific sorority, its policies, and the expectations of its members. Factors to consider include time commitment, financial obligations, social expectations, philanthropy and community service, leadership roles, and academic expectations. It’s crucial to assess whether these align with your personal priorities and ability to balance other commitments. Consider your energy levels during pregnancy, any challenges like morning sickness, and ensuring time for doctor's appointments.
Be open and honest. While discussing your pregnancy may seem daunting, transparency is essential to building trust within the sorority. Some sororities may have a supportive community that rallies around members during challenging times. Others may have a less understanding environment. Speaking with sorority leadership is a positive step—they may provide resources and guidance tailored to your unique situation.
Title IX. Sorority membership practices are usually exempt from Title IX law. While some sororities allow pregnant members and members with children, some may not. Sororities may have specific policies or guidelines regarding pregnancies. It's advisable to review the sorority's rules and communicate openly with sorority leaders about your situation.
If you’re not in a sorority yet: For those considering rushing, it's vital to be aware that the first six to eight weeks of sorority membership can be extremely busy (and possibly expensive). Timing is key, and being informed can help you make the right decision for your circumstances.
If you’re already in a sorority and just found out you’re pregnant, don’t panic! It’s best to find out if there are rules in the bylaws about pregnancy. Members who become pregnant may have the option to become alumni early and continue to engage with the group in a new capacity.
Remember, there are also numerous alternatives to sororities. Academic or professional organizations, book clubs, service groups, and more can provide friendship, community, and connection. Explore options that align with your interests and goals, attend club fairs, and embrace diverse experiences to create a well-rounded college journey.
If you’re a college student facing an unplanned pregnancy, you have options, and you don’t have to go through this alone. If you’re still feeling lost, please reach out to our team at any time of day or night. We’re available by call or text at 720-386-6009, and we want to help you access all the resources you need (including housing, tuition assistance, medical care, and more).